Still stuck despite the work you've done?
when therapy is not helping, it’s time to go deeper
You can name the pattern. You just can’t seem to stop it.
Most conventional approaches focus on making symptoms smaller.
I help you grow around them.
Generational Trauma and Parentification
You know your patterns well
They probably look something like this…
YOU CARRY MORE THAN YOUR SHARE
- You’re the one who holds everything together.
- You anticipate other people’s needs and reactions.
- You take responsibility for things that aren’t yours.
- You give more than you receive, then feel resentful.
- You have a hard time receiving.
YOUr Capability has become a trap
- You’re capable, but exhausted.
- You feel guilty when things are going well.
- You struggle to know what you want when nobody else needs something from you.
- You’re sabotage things just when things start to go right.
You might have even labeled these eldest-daughter syndrome, parentification, unreached potential, self-sabotage, burnout, imposter syndrome, or codependency.
You understand your patterns intellectually.
You’ve labeled and described them.
You’ve worked on the thoughts and the behaviors.
But these patterns may be symptoms of something deeper. Sometimes they didn’t start with you.
Hi, I'm Sara Taylor, PhD.
Neuroscientist. Former psychology professor. Generational trauma consultant and existential coach.
The people who find me have done significant inner work and are still hitting a wall. Chronic burnout. Repeated career, relationship, or creative sabotage. Overfunctioning and overresponsibility. Guilt around success.
I work primarily with eldest daughters and other parentified adults at the intersection of generational trauma, family systems, and somatic approaches. We renegotiate the historical trauma, family roles, and loyalty patterns underneath what the other work couldn’t touch.
When you put down what isn't yours to carry, you make room for your own life. Before it feels too late.
WHAT KEEPS YOU STUCK LIVES IN THE SHADOWS
Your difficult patterns have something in common.
The more you look at and welcome what has been hidden, the more of yourself becomes available to you.
It stops draining you and starts fueling you instead.
This work doesn’t stop at you.
When the patterns shift, it changes what moves through you into your relationships, your family, and your work.
WHAT LIVES IN THE SHADOWS
Family Double Binds
An unconscious loyalty to the family’s rules, no matter the cost to you.
Generational Trauma
Unknowingly living out someone else’s unfinished story.
Inherited Emotions
Emotions that loop no matter what you do, because they didn’t start with you.
What Actually Changes
People come to this work for a reason they can name.
They leave with something they didn’t know they were missing.
She came feeling trapped after an undesired move. She left with something she didn’t expect: a connection to her great-grandfather’s immigration story that had been unconsciously shaping her life, and a new level of self-trust.
“My imposter syndrome is less and when it does creep up, I can usually tell it to go away.”
“Their stories are my stories too, even if I didn’t know them in person.”
She came because she wanted to get her career back on track. She left knowing who she is.
“I know the depths and the shadows, and the highs and the nooks and crannies where things were hidden. I know things that I didn’t think were there. That affects everything, every outward expression, every interaction, every creative output, everything that comes from me.”
She came because her insides didn’t match her outsides. Loving husband. Good relationships. But she couldn’t feel any of it.
“I realized I am trying to end human suffering by myself and let that go. I don’t know how to make that sound as big of a deal as it is in words. Because it is a big deal.”
WHY DID THE WORK STOP WORKING?
Why You Hit a Wall in Therapy is a self-assessment of where you hit the ceiling, and what’s likely underneath it.
WAYS TO GO DEEPER
Free Office Hours
Got a question? Come pick my brain. 20 minutes on Zoom, free, no agenda except yours.
Core Pattern Intensive
For when you’re tired of looping. Two sessions to work directly with the energetic core of your most persistent pattern. Beyond talk and insight. Actual renegotiation.
Through the Shadowlands
The full program. Six months working through generational patterns, ancestral entanglements, and inherited emotions.